A Christian husband should be patient and understanding with his wife when it comes to expecting her to submit to his spiritual direction. Be gentle and kind with her always, never be controlling and bossy with her because this is not what loving your wife properly is all about. Love her with your gentle spirit.

A Godly man is going to put God first in his life and then he will be blessed with his position of spiritual influence in his home. A man cannot lead his castle properly if he has not allowed God to first influence his own life, so then it goes without saying that any wife would have a difficult time submitting to her husband who hasnt surrender his own life over to God first.

Be a Good Husband

If you want to influence your wife spiritually, dont tell her what to do, how to believe, or what to say? Dont tell her she is not a good wife or that she is not a Christian for not submitting to you. If you want to influence your wife, look at your own life and do what is morally right and acceptable so she will want to be by your side in all things. Let her want to be your right arm; let it be her decision, as it should be. Otherwise it wouldnt be true submission, would it? Your uprightness is what will influence your wife spiritually.

Be Humble

What exactly is humbleness? Be real. Dont try and be something youre not. Be the natural man that God created you to be, that would include your sins and weaknesses. Accept your faults. Say you are sorry when you have hurt others, and strive to do better. Walk your walk in life to the best of Gods will as you possibly can. Dont say you dont sin, that wouldnt be true.

Stay faithful, spiritually and mentally. Be purposeful and alive in your position as the Spiritual leader in the home, but do not use your position to take advantage of your family with. Be true to yourself. You influence your wife by being who you are. She will accept you with your faults more than if you say you dont have any faults.

Be an Example

Show your wife what submission is. Stop being argumentative and contrary. Give in for the sake of love. We cannot change others, we can only change and work on ourselves in the hopes that through our example others will turn their lives around and seek love. Mutual submission should always be a humble cooperation and consideration for each other.

Popular culture delights in perverting what submission and spiritual authority really are. This is direct rebelliousness to God, which takes society even further away spiritually from the truth as they become more blind and close minded to Gods true intentions for marriage.

God created divisions of authority in order for the world to function efficiently. Marriage is not any different; there must be divisions of authority in marriage so it too, can function efficiently. God created men and women with unique and complimentary characteristics that work ideally together when husband and wife stick to their own unique abilities and characteristics. God did not make one sex better than the other.

Couples need to stop making the issues of authority and submission a barrier to destroy the sanctity of marriage; instead they should use their God given talents and unique abilities to strengthen each other and to glorify God with.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Dont they come from your own desires that battle within you? You want something but dont get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:1-3