Lets face it: we all love to receive presents, but when we are talking about a wedding, keep in mind that you should focus on what a wedding really means. Remember that a wedding is about the joining of two people, who love each other so much that they pledge their lives to each other forever, and they want to make this commitment with friends and family present. As we all know, this is a profound act worthy of all our respect. This is why I think you should first review a bit of wedding etiquette as it relates to the all-important wedding gift:

First of all, you should never mention gifts on the invitation.

When you have to publicize your registry information, its best if you use a wedding website or word of mouth.

There is only one exception: the bridal shower invitation. Here is the list:
You have to ask for cash gifts or gift certificates by word of mouth or via your wedding website.
Remember that honeymoon registries are appropriate.
Its important not to use any of the wedding gifts until after your wedding.
Then, you have to keep in mind that all gifts, even shower gifts, must be returned if the wedding is cancelled or annulled before living together as a married couple.
I hope that this wont happen and Im sure that it wont!

Remember that gift giving for vow renewal or reaffirmation ceremonies is not mandatory, but it is a very nice gesture.
Lifestyle gifts are perfect for the reaffirmation, or for the encore bride:
A certificate to a spa or a favorite restaurant
A vacation package
A night in a nice lodge

More information to come on the perfect wedding etiquette.