John saw Jenny and they happily lived ever after! Goose stories, told by nannies to their grand daughters who are going on their first date. The grand daughters of today want an articulate, suave and interesting guy to begin with. The foremost trait this grand daughter is looking for: Can this guy converse? The first complete sentence John is going to utter might end the John-Jenny story right here!

Tons of paper and GBs worth of virtual space has been spent on deciding the one articulate, interesting and suave combination of words which will eventually lead John to woo Jenny. To be frank, I am of the opinion that there is no Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus type answer to this query. No amount of man-women analysis has been able to give us fair and square answer to this question. Suggestions range from a nice and decent Hellos, to a curt and challenging introduction. What they all boil down to are the absolute basics that a guy has to adhere to and get a maximum out of the situation at hand. Illustrated below are a few of the essential principles that a guy must stick to start and sustain the conversation :

(a) Get your body language straight; Be confident, upright and speak your sense. Dont use submissive, apologetic body language and voice tones. A lot of initial conversations die a premature death if the guy pleads to begin one. What we forget is that a woman is picturing things as we speak. Wherever you are and whatever the situation, you must remember that your composure and body language are the key.

(b) Mentally prepare the approach to the woman. Meeting are destined in heaven, but to ensure that it reaches the gates of heaven ( pun intended) together is up to the people involved in them. Dont just march to a lady and start babblings. Prepare the approach and you will be happy in the long run. However, I must add, Dont make it too complicated.

(c) Dont try and get a forced response from her. A woman is attracted to a man who is a challenge to her. Make this challenge achievable is u want to dominate a relationship. Maintain the alpha-status and she will be glued to you. Say what comes to your mind (and heart) seeing the situation. Start off with a small hello and continue with a leading question.

Finally, remember its a conversation; both have to share the mantle. Be prepared to guide the conversation to a mutually convenient topic. This implies that you have to start with the initial question and look beyond. Start with the aim to keep the conversation going; that will ensure that you progress in the relationship and maybe start the journey granny told you about the one which lead to the gates of heaven.